How 'Discipline' Actually Change My Life.

In our teenager's day, we’re most likely to waste our time doing stupid, worthless things.

Drinking, partying, gambling…and many more – those are the stupid, worthless things.

I’ve been in this era before I could build my discipline in my 20s.

I honestly regret what I have done back then as if I had innocent thoughts on those memories.

And thank God, I successfully changed myself into another person.

The life that I’ve been craving for, doing it with love, passion, and consistency…

…where I bring this habit into my university life.

I used to be unsocially with people back then, maybe because of toxic relationships.

Interestingly, I did my best to connect with people around me, surrounded by people who bring positivity and good laughs.

And because of that people are attracted to me like a magnet.

I developed this one character inside myself: being cold, confident, disciplined, and mature.

I understand that people will get attracted to us with these qualities especially when you lead the team for a big project or during the tournament.

“Be the leader. Don’t be a boss.”

We know that we don’t want our lives to be controlled by a bossy person to satisfy their own needs.

We need someone who is willing to guide us, listen to us, and understand us. The best one is when they make you feel exist in this world. (which is me)

I have this kind of mindset. I’ve been practicing this mindset and making it a part of my discipline.

In one of my newsletters, “The Power of Discipline”, I mentioned one part where you should know your weaknesses first.

Acknowledge where you struggle at first. Use this question to ask yourself:

What was my weakness?

How should I overcome it?

Who should I seek help from?

I will guide you on how. Let’s take an example about my own life – I am an introvert back then.

First, I know my weakness – I isolated myself from people, including my family back then. I avoid long conversations, meeting with people, and talking in front of an audience.

Now, that’s my weakness. To overcome it, you should pay attention to the people around you. How do they start the conversation? Or making it fun? Or maybe having the audience pay attention to you?

Body language, tone, eye contact, and humor. It’s easy. When you meet a new person, smile at them and greet them. Or maybe let them in while the elevator is still open or hold the door for them to enter the room.

This little gesture and service can make people respect you and be liked by them. Remember, be less reactive and more attentive when you are in a room with them.

Lastly, you should find help from people with such experience. Last month, I sought help from my friends on how they can be very confident while speaking in front of an audience.

Using those techniques, I practiced it, with good body language. This is why body language is important when talking to someone.

Not only that, these people will give you the most important tips. I learned that you should keep eye contact not on their eyes but on their forehead. Reasons? To gain confidence while speaking.

And that’s how. To build discipline, you must ask yourself first. Remember, you must find your weaknesses first before you can do something. With this, you will find your purpose and continue to build a good habit with discipline.

P/S: Hey there! It’s been a while since my last newsletter was published. I’ve been busy with my university life but continuing my writing. Thank you to those who subscribed me and I’ll post more after this.

Take care of yourself and drink more water!